Let's Get Real

Real weddings are near and dear and close to our hearts. As planners, we are honored to be charged with planning the most important day of your life. We pride ourselves on being up to date on the newest trends, knowing the best vendors in our area and assembling a rock star team. We meet with brides and they give us their list of questions, pour out their ideas and enlist their trust in us. Bring a bride is tough business and that is why we are here, prepared to answer all your questions, make [most] of your dreams come true and send you down the aisle.

One thing that makes working with brides so rewarding is helping alleviate necessary stress, and boy do brides have a wealth of that! It is one of our biggest joys to take the reigns and leave you feeling calm. After planning countless weddings it is pretty safe to say that we have experienced our fair share of pitfalls and triumphs. We learn from both, and go forward even more prepared.

I remember when I was a bride, my vision clouded with peonies and paper goods, my ring still sparkly and practicing my new signature. I remember I was beyond excited. I also remember one of the first meetings I had with our planner, and all the insane questions I flooded her with. Most brides sit in the same chair I sat, a huge looming to do list before them and no clue what to do next. And that’s where we come in!

Helping not only plan but also keep brides and grooms happy and calm it is important that we keep some key factors in mind when beginning the planning process. Here are some examples of some of the most important real life issues and topics we deal with-

  • Have the money talk early. Don’t write a single check or wait for any time to pass by before having “the talk” with all contributing parties. I know it is uncomfortable, but it is so incredibly necessary. After this is done you can move forward knowing exactly where you stand without breaking your budget. Remember, no budget is right or wrong, it’s just important that it fits your needs.
  • Enlist help! This is where we come in, the professionals. Whether you want to plan the entire day yourself and just want help along the way and on the day of or you want to hand everything over at the beginning, hire a professional! We are here to be your advocate, your expert and your worker bee.
  • Make time to not plan. While you are engaged you will be engrossed with all things wedding and it is important to know when to step away and spend some time with your hubby to be. Designate one night per week where you and your groom talk about anything but the upcoming wedding. This will help keep stress levels down and lighten the mood.
  • Exercise! In the immortal words of Elle Woods, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.” Exercise not to lose weight but to feel happier and less stressed. Find a fun workout class like TRX or Barre and make it a priority to go.
  • Remember that weddings are emotional. You and your groom may be the ones saying the “I do’s” but don’t forget that family and close friends can, and will, get super emotional during the planning process. You might not understand why mom and dad insist on inviting their neighbors from 1983 but try to remember that this is the day they have been waiting for too, and they still want to have an input.
  • Get extra cooks out of the kitchen. We all know the saying and we all have been in situations where there are just too many opinions flying around. Prepare to make decisions on who will be involved with what. Have 15 bridesmaids? It might not be the best decision to take them all bridesmaid dress shopping at the same time, holy drama! Staff your crew with the people who’s opinion you value most but never forget that this is your day and you and your groom have the final say.

Wedding planning is enjoyable but at times stressful. Remember not to forget why you are getting married in the first place, because you found love! Enjoy the ride and savor all the moments.

Categories: Planning

One bride- two families.

I am very lucky that the MOTB (mother of the bride) is also my wedding planner. Each time we chat there is another obvious detail to discuss. Since I am living in the south and “commuting” to all wedding related appointments, I am constantly calculating my next flight. I am truly blessed to have such an organized, energetic, posh planner. The line of communication from Savannah to New Jersey is one that I could not be without; although we constantly text, FaceTime and e-mail, the best interaction with my mom is exchanging long overdue hugs at the airport.

As much as I find myself chatting with the MOTB, I am also in frequent conversation with my future in-laws, the excessively excited grandma’s and bachelorette ready cousins. In the midst of wedding planning, I have learned that the bride-to-be must also orchestrate the family behind both parties.

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When preparing to marry, plan with both families in mind (Drew family above, Peterman family below) Please excuse the crazy selfies (we just can’t help it).

When friends in Savannah see how involved both sides of the family are regarding wedding preparation they often react with facial expressions of astonishment. People wonder whether I am a potentially bombarded bride? The truth is, I’m just a long distance bride with a very, very loving family. The constant communication between myself and the wedding party has been one of the most exciting aspects of planning. I have realized that despite the temporary distance I am surrounded by an enormous wave of love, support and celebration.

Here’s a pretty regular day in the life of bridal bliss (characters do vary by day of the week- except for mom, she’s on call 24/7):

  • Wake up with weddings on the mind- more fuel for Posh Petal and Pearls!
  • MOTB calls to confirm florist appointment which is coming up next week (finally)!
  • While at the office my cousin texts me a playful “hint” about my bachelorette (don’t worry, it was PG).
  • After returning home, I check my mailbox and receive a fan letter from one of my beautiful bridesmaids, Alexa.

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Reminder: the bride must keep calm and carry (her groom) on.

  • My phone buzzes with a picture of my mom visiting a garden in California- she writes, “flower inspiration for the wedding?”

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A posh mom among the petals.

  • My television remote seems to automatically locate episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress” (a great way to end the day).

I can’t help but wonder what will happen when the big day has come and gone. While the planning, plotting and partying are all incredibly memorable, I know that I will be perfectly content when it’s just me and my husband wearing shiny wedding bands and processing it all. We will, of course, relive the happy memories of our big day and the relentless planning led by my amazing mother. Also, for the first time in months, I will experience the loss of cell reception (one of the many benefits of honeymooning).

But there’s plenty to do first. Posh Petal and Pearl brides should stay tuned: next week I will be heading home for a makeup trial, florist appointment, bridesmaid dress fitting, shoe shopping and much more…!

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