I am very lucky that the MOTB (mother of the bride) is also my wedding planner. Each time we chat there is another obvious detail to discuss. Since I am living in the south and “commuting” to all wedding related appointments, I am constantly calculating my next flight. I am truly blessed to have such an organized, energetic, posh planner. The line of communication from Savannah to New Jersey is one that I could not be without; although we constantly text, FaceTime and e-mail, the best interaction with my mom is exchanging long overdue hugs at the airport.
As much as I find myself chatting with the MOTB, I am also in frequent conversation with my future in-laws, the excessively excited grandma’s and bachelorette ready cousins. In the midst of wedding planning, I have learned that the bride-to-be must also orchestrate the family behind both parties.
When preparing to marry, plan with both families in mind (Drew family above, Peterman family below) Please excuse the crazy selfies (we just can’t help it).
When friends in Savannah see how involved both sides of the family are regarding wedding preparation they often react with facial expressions of astonishment. People wonder whether I am a potentially bombarded bride? The truth is, I’m just a long distance bride with a very, very loving family. The constant communication between myself and the wedding party has been one of the most exciting aspects of planning. I have realized that despite the temporary distance I am surrounded by an enormous wave of love, support and celebration.
Here’s a pretty regular day in the life of bridal bliss (characters do vary by day of the week- except for mom, she’s on call 24/7):
- Wake up with weddings on the mind- more fuel for Posh Petal and Pearls!
- MOTB calls to confirm florist appointment which is coming up next week (finally)!
- While at the office my cousin texts me a playful “hint” about my bachelorette (don’t worry, it was PG).
- After returning home, I check my mailbox and receive a fan letter from one of my beautiful bridesmaids, Alexa.
Reminder: the bride must keep calm and carry (her groom) on.
- My phone buzzes with a picture of my mom visiting a garden in California- she writes, “flower inspiration for the wedding?”
A posh mom among the petals.
- My television remote seems to automatically locate episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress” (a great way to end the day).
I can’t help but wonder what will happen when the big day has come and gone. While the planning, plotting and partying are all incredibly memorable, I know that I will be perfectly content when it’s just me and my husband wearing shiny wedding bands and processing it all. We will, of course, relive the happy memories of our big day and the relentless planning led by my amazing mother. Also, for the first time in months, I will experience the loss of cell reception (one of the many benefits of honeymooning).
But there’s plenty to do first. Posh Petal and Pearl brides should stay tuned: next week I will be heading home for a makeup trial, florist appointment, bridesmaid dress fitting, shoe shopping and much more…!