In the world of weddings, seating arrangements are taken seriously. At this point, most if not all RSVP’s are in, and it’s time to seat parents, cousins, friends, friends of friends and everyone in between. For the upcoming Drew/Peterman wedding, we have over two hundred and fifty guests to successfully seat.
Thankfully mom, my wedding planner, is extremely organized and has a thoughtful process for accomplishing every task. The clever MOTB used paper plates and an enlarged version of our wedding list to help place guests. After all names were cut, the slips of paper were clipped to each plate based on tables of ten. Apparently, there are methods to certain aspects of wedding madness.
I’m a bride from the generation of Mean Girls. Don’t misunderstand me- I’ve never been and will never become a mean girl; it’s far from a coveted title. It is, however, a famous movie. If brides-to-be haven’t seen this film by now, don’t bother. However, there’s one line that remains popular and is consistently modified to fit just about every trend.
“You can’t sit with us.”
For example, at Pure Barre some say, “You can’t tuck with us.”
I must admit, although terrible, this phrase applies to weddings. Table etiquette is today’s discussion.
Some seating thoughts for consideration…
Can the bride and groom mix friends with family?
Absolutely. It’s challenging to make separate tables of ten for every category of loved ones attending. We have friends from different walks of life such as high school, college, work and Savannah! Some have met my cousins throughout the years, while others wouldn’t know Betty from Barbara if they guessed.
Just remember: weddings are happy occasions where mingling is encouraged. Making new friends by the end of the evening is a plus.
my feelings exactly.
How strict are seating cards anyway? Is it acceptable for guests to switch tables?
Aside from the ceremony, weddings are loud, wild and unpredictable! Table cards simply help the rush from cocktail hour to the ballroom appear organized. Seating assignments should not be enforced. I encourage our friends and family members to table-hop. Guests who spend too much time sitting, miss the life of the party on the dance floor.
At our wedding, guests can and will sit with us. In fact, I will be
seated with my groom at a big table of friends instead of waving from a far off sweetheart table.